I have pretty much lost track of most of the people I went to high school with. Really, I had few friends at the time and have resisted attending reunions. I have often wondered if anyone I knew in my school years was trans. I'll probably never know. Ashley moved on, after graduating from high school. While searching Facebook, she found a former friend....and guess what? Read A new old friend, for the rest of the story. Want to know more about Ashley (since I don't believe we have featured her blog)? Go to her first post, The Obligatory Introductory Post (that no one reads)....and prove her wrong!
Now, if the title of this post doesn't peek your interest, nothing will! In his interview (yes, we'll use the male pronoun), on ABC's 20-20, last Friday, Bruce Jenner made the statement, "I am a woman". Our featured post really has little to do with Bruce Jenner, but a lot to do with Dawn, in that she questions Bruce's statement, "I am a woman", asking herself the question: "Am I a woman" It's a thoughtful kind of post I just love to feature on T-Central....well written (as it should be, since she's a professional writer), and from the heart. Please take a few minutes to read, The Word is Transgender......Not Trans-Jenner, from Dawn's blog, Live After Dawn.
"...to get to where I am has taken VAST amounts of discussions! I mean
VAST, ENORMOUS, GARGANTUAN, amounts of discussions. Discussions that
have taken place so many times that it is the discussions alone that
have often made my spouse question why she is with me."
It's an interesting blog post on communication, which is so important in any marriage and especially a marriage where one of the spouses is transgender. In Nadine's case, there is somewhat of a twist. Read Spousal Acceptance for the details.
Nadine ended her post with this quote, which says a lot:
doesn't come from having no one around you, but from being unable to
communicate the things that are important to you. -Carl Jung
I've been searching for a good post to feature on the Jenner transition story, on the American ABC network. Julia Serano, someone I have very much respected and admired over the years and have seen speak, says it best in her post, So about that whole Jenner thing.
Gillian has been blogging since 2008. A big change in her Mythcongeniality blog came in July, 2012 when she announced that Mythcongeniality will host a webcomic called "Calogrenant". It's the story of one of King Arthur's knights who... well, rather than spoil it here, you need to go back to the beginning. Gillian is now working on a special project, Calogrenant, the book. It's going to tell the story of King Author's knight and will be filled with Gillian's beautiful illustrations.
I have experienced arousal when crossdressing since the onset of puberty
but my impetus was not the arousal itself but rather the desire to
express my femininity; the erotic overtones seemed to adhere themselves
to that experience and bring the joy of it tumbling down bringing with
it guilt and shame. With increasing age, the arousal appears with less
frequency but the feminine feelings only intensify. This is why I have
established a part time life as a woman as a response to curb any
pressure I may feel to transition.
In this post, Joanna muses on the question of arousal, as sent forth by Ray Blanchard and others, and adds her own opinions to this often debated theory in the trans world. Blanchard and others have studied transgender individuals and have put their findings in print. It has always been my feeling, however, that only someone who is trans can truly understand someone who is trans. Joanna writes with some authority as only someone who has been there, done that, can.
We call her Meg, because she says we should, but last week I would have called her super Meg, or really upset Meg at the very least. Meg posts daily, but this one last week is worth a revisit. If you read it and followed up on the issue she highlights, then you might know already, but her post was not simply about "the bathroom issue". It was about laws and an education system that too often ignores its responsibility to educate. Read Meg's "I Want Answers" here.
It's so hard to believe that Aversion Therapy was applied to Susan's "condition" as recently as the 1970's. Honestly, I thought all of that ended in the 1950's. You can read about it in this short post from Susan's blog, Transitioning Into Tomorrow.
“When you’re a kid, parents always tell you sticks and stones may
break your bones but names will never hurt you,” Taylor said. “To me
that’s not true. Words hurt, and words turn up to threats and threats
turn up to physical violence.”
Our friend Lucy Melford is a prolific writer and a good one too. I have no idea if it is so, ~ perhaps the ladies in the statistical department here at T-Central might take that on as a project ~ but there is a good chance that her blog has been featured more often than any other. Her post today, Finding one's true selfuses humour to draw us into some very serious considerations on the topic of transition and finding one's true nature. She writes:
"... living honestly demands that you do what is needed, and it can't become a deal struck between the one who needs to change and those opposed to that change, who want to see a reward for the 'permission-to-proceed' that they granted."
If you have not visited her site before, you should look around, but do read this post first.
Q. What’s the worse thing about living with a cross dresser?
A. Mess in the bathroom….makeup everywhere
Oh my, I absolutely loved this post from Bobbysox! In the post, Bobbysox interviews Mrs. Sox. Funny and well worth reading. It's nice to see a couple actually laughing at themselves. The post is Interview with a wife. So just who is Bobbiesox? "I’ve had a few years being totally in the closet with my dressing, it
was difficult getting my dress on in there so I eventually got out and
ended up in the bedroom for a while and also found out how liberating it
was to walk on a carpet in heels."
Read more here. There's also a picture and this girl is looking good!
In the featured post, Bobbysox mentiones that there are few blogs written by the wives of crossdressers (or transitioners). There are a few blogs listed on T-Central and T-Central has featured some guest posts from wives of those who are trans, including one from Helen Boyd (My Husband Betty author).